What happens when people who are terrified of intimacy are given structured support, consent-focused touch, and a chance to explore connection without shame?

BBC’s Channel 4 & Double Act Productions

Virgin Island is a reality television series that follows a group of adult virgins as they participate in an immersive intimacy retreat designed to help them overcome barriers to connection, confidence, and sexual expression. Guided by sexologists, intimacy coaches, and other specialists, participants engage in workshops and experiential exercises focused on communication, consent, touch, vulnerability, and self-discovery. Rather than centering on "losing virginity," the series explores the emotional, psychological, and relational factors that shape people's experiences of intimacy and connection.

WATCH ME IN EPISODES 5 & 6 HERE!

When I watched the first season of Virgin Island, I found myself feeling deeply protective of the participants. What they chose to do required extraordinary courage: to be seen in their vulnerability, to confront their fears, and to pursue intimacy in front of a national audience. What moved me most, however, was the show's remarkable humanity. Unlike so much reality television, Virgin Island approaches its participants with genuine care, creating a space where vulnerability is not exploited but honored. It was impossible not to want to be part of something so meaningful.

Joining the cast of experts for season two as the BDSM specialist became one of the most unexpectedly profound experiences of my career. I arrived midway through filming, expecting to contribute a small chapter to the story, and left feeling deeply connected to the people, the process, and the mission of the show. I am immensely proud of the work I did, the relationships I built, and the opportunity to help participants explore new dimensions of trust, desire, authenticity, and self-discovery.

As a queer, kinky person who has spent years learning to embrace my desires and step fully into my own power, I hope my presence—both on the island and on screen—offers others permission to do the same. If even one person feels less alone, less ashamed, or more empowered to explore who they are because of what they witnessed, then I consider my contribution a success.